My Unemployed Days
Blog By Sreyashi Kochhar
I had been in corporate circuit for 14 years and have enjoyed my stint there in every aspect. I have always enjoyed my work and the good and the bad aspects of the corporate ladder. With my husband’s move to Jeddah last year in Jun 2016 and me joining him in Mar 2017, it left me searching my next assignment. I think I just need some time to figure out what I want to do. I’m still in the settling phase in my mind, my job hunt is on. I don’t know when I’ll get a job of my own choice to start with. Only time will tell.
My “break” that I’m in since the last a few months turned into this perpetual state of happiness. I realized how a break can be state of calmness, awareness and steadiness.There are few noteworthy lessons I’ve learned these past few months.
Saving money is easier when you don’t have a choice.
When I earned, I spent it, knowing that every month end I’d get a salary. In fact, I felt justified spending it because I worked hard for that money, why shouldn’t I be able to enjoy it! All these years, I can’t even imagine what I used to spend my money on. When I buy things now, I know my husband can pay for it at any time. It’s all about priorities. So I prioritize saving whatever money I have.
Shopping compulsions can go away.
Since my outings are now limited mainly to the supermarket and the occasional visit to the mall or meal with friends and husband, my daily outfit consist of a tee and jeans. I no longer stare aimlessly at my full closet every morning saddened by the fact that I have nothing to wear to work that day. I don’t get tired of wearing the same thing. I believe my shopping compulsion previously had a lot more to do with my routineness at work and needing to something that made me feel good about having to go to work—buying clothes for it. Once in a while, I’ll buy a few things, always at a good value. And if I come home feeling like I spent too much money, I will always go back and return it.
Eating and sleeping are important.
This sounds like a no-brainer, but this is the biggest lesson I’ve learnt in my corporate stint so far. When I was working full time, I ate poorly and slept little. I ate poorly because I didn’t have a lot of options., I never had time to cook with peace of mind. I slept little because the last thing I wanted to do when I got home was sleep. I wanted to watch TV, read, talk with my husband, my parents, my friends – all the things that work deprived me of.
I was determined not to let my weeks go by in a haze of wake up, get ready, go to work, get ready for bed, and do the whole thing over again. Now I eat well and listen to my body when it tells me to go to bed and wake up. I can’t blame my routine for my bad mood now. I can only blame the way I’ve treated my body.
There’s never enough time.
I now have enough time to do everything I ever wanted. I’ve started going for walks, am active and have started to write and read too, something that I’ve always craved for. I’ve also developed a habit of cooking every day, something I was never used to.
There has to be a line between work and home.
By far, this was the hardest lesson for me to learn. I’m not a workaholic. But I found it difficult to stop working. I didn’t want to be away from the computer. The wakeup call came on my own. My husband never complained, but I had started to get bored of my work. I consider myself lucky that I’m financially stable to don’t have to have a job for the month end salary. But now I realize that since I’m unsocial by nature, so being forced in a work environment where I had to interact with people daily was good for me.
Things always work out.
Things always work out. We adapt and we find ways to get by. It’s just whether you want to. It’s important to keep the purpose in mind, like in my case I had to be with my husband in Jeddah & there were no second thoughts on it , so leaving my job to join him was the only way out. When I find something I really want to pursue, the sacrifices in my unemployed days will become very easy to make.
Blog by Sreyashi Kochhar